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Mindfulness Quotes

The order of appearance does not reflect quality, but a progression…


  1. “A great deal of the chaos in the world occurs because people don’t appreciate themselves.” ~ Chogyam Trungpa

  2. “Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” ~ Leo Tolstoy

  3. “To worship our false selves is to worship nothing. And the worship of nothing is hell.” ~ Thomas Merton

  4. “Till the false is seen as false, truth is not.” ~ Jiddu Krishnamurti

  5. “Realization is to get rid of the delusion that you have not realized.” ~ Sri Ramana Maharshi

  6. “It is precisely because our present life is so inseparably linked with desire that we must make use of desire’s tremendous energy if we wish to transform our life into something transcendental.” ~ Lama Yeshe

  7. “Real devotion is an unbroken receptivity to the truth. Real devotion is rooted in an awed and reverent gratitude, but one that is lucid, grounded, and intelligent.” ~ Sogyal Rinpoche

  8. “Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth” ~ Pema Chodron

  9. “We shall not cease from exploration, and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time.” ~ T.S. Eliot

  10. “God’s first language is Silence. Everything else is a translation.” ~ Thomas Keating

  11. “After silence, that which comes nearest to expressing the inexpressible is music.” ~ Aldous Huxley

  12. “If it isn’t good, let it die. If it doesn’t die, make it good.” ~ Achaan Chah

  13. “Have a mind that is open to everything, and attached to nothing.” ~ Tilopa

  14. “Big Mind is something to express, not something to figure out.” ~ Shunryu Suzuki

  15. “The primordial fire of reality is going to burn through the hull of our little ego spaceship, and scatter us like stars.” ~ Reggie Ray

  16. “Any emotion, if it is sincere, is involuntary.” ~ Mark Twain

  17. “I have not encountered another temple as blissful as my own body.” ~ Saraha

  18. “Being completely and totally present and at every single point of space and time, It is fully and completely present here and now, thus we can no more attain immanent Spirit then we could, say, attain our feet.” ~ Ken Wilber

  19. “The eye with which I see God is the same eye with which God sees me.” ~ Meister Eckhart

  20. “Omnipotence is not knowing how everything is done; it’s just doing it.” ~ Alan Watts

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The Good, The Bad and The Jealousy

"He came in my office and he was talking to me, but I didn't hear a word he said. All I could do was stare at those lips of his." She said to her friend after he left the room.

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Edward Cullen, Christian Grey... Or any character played by Matthew Mcconaughey... Face it woman like the Bad Boys. Whether he's an actual bad ass or just the dubious player, he makes her panties pulsate. There is something alluring about the guy that can't be caught. Deep down women want to be Sandra Dee to Danny Zuko. Well, not that deep down actually. Its right there boiling at the surface.

A diabolical battle raged across the ages: Not Beowulf vs Grendel, Not Hercules vs Minotaur, Not Ulysses vs Cyclops...

But The Nice Guy vs The Bad Boy.

What's funny? Why do I laugh? I'm both. I've been the nice guy who's advantage gets taken. And I've been the player who steals the other guys girl. I'm not proud of either of those. (Especially since it happened at the same time.) The problem: there is no hero in this fight. Women get all excited about The Bad Boy. Yet, women want the security of The Nice Guy. No matter which one she chooses she is always disappointed. The Bad Boy will never fulfill her. And The Nice Guy will never fill her full. What is a girl to do? Settle?

She could get her groove on with a few Bad Seeds. Then put down roots with the guy she can take home to mom and dad. But That doesn't work.

Or...

She could spend the rest of her life trying to turn one of those bad seeds into a good egg. Sorry ladies, you can't change him. That still doesn't work.

I've conducted enough couples therapy to know that these are recipes for failure... Or at least mediocrity.

And how does all this make him feel? "Taken advantage of" for being nice. "Like an ass" for not being good enough.
Both perpetuate the cycle. He contributes to the problem as much as she does. Then resentment festers until someone melts down Lindsay Lohan style.

Again! What's a girl to do? The truth is you can't change who he is, but you can change how you view him. Most guys are not "either/or." They really are "both/and." We have both our good and our bad sides. We can be sweet, and we can be nasty. You my dear, have the key. Don't take advantage of The Nice Guy, then fall for The Bad Boy. Reverse the rolls. Fall for The Nice Guy show him the appreciation and affection he deserves. Then take advantage of The Bad Boy. This won't be cheating if you realize he is one in same. He is two sides of the same coin. You just need to explore both.


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Six Things To Never Say To Your Man




"You're such a guy."
This undermines his sense of individuality.

"You just don't understand"
This insults his intelligence.

"You're acting like a girl."
This discounts and shuts down his emotions.

"I don't want to talk about it" (When he knows you do.)
This belittles his ability to care.

"You just want sex"
This destroys the feelings he has for you. It's almost as bad as accusing...

"You don't love me."


Joking around is one thing, but don't say these during arguements.

He may not be able to communicate as well as your girlfriends, but give him credit for trying. If he has a concern don't get defensive. Try to listen to him the way you want him to listen to you. Don't blow him off; say, "I'm too upset for advice, I need you to just listen." If you don't like how he is communicating give him something to do. Say, "I need to be held," or "Can you just rub my back?" If you really need space, say, "If you want to help, you can go take care of (this) for me." If he is not helping you feel sexy, teach him how to seduce you. No matter how much you want him to; he can't read your mind.
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Screw Up!



Broken hearts, deadlines passed, failed relationships, missed opportunities… You could fill the bed of a Dodge Ram 3500 with all my mistakes. Thank God for people like The Real House Wives of Atlanta and Charlie Sheen to help us feel like we aren’t so bad off. At least I don’t screw up as much as that guy…  Wait that guy is rich.

Really! Mistakes are just the excuses our teachers use to hand out grades. The kids with the most wrong answers fail. The kids with most right answers become professors… And professors get to determine all the wrong answers for the next generation of students. It’s a vicious cycle; like we are addicted to perfection. Our teachers tell us “this is right and that is wrong!” We have become a culture that worships experts. It’s like society is Bobby Brown and we are Whitney Houston. We just keep wasting our lives trying to make society happy.... ‘til we're so badly beaten we give up and OD. Yeah I said IT… What too soon?

Seriously: if Columbus, Galileo, and the Wright Brothers had shut up and listened to the experts our world would be the flat, center of the universe with no Red-Eye to Vegas. Where is the fun in that? What if Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr. and Nelson Mandela had been good little “niggers” and sat down & shut-up? What if Shakespeare, Picasso, and Anna Pavlova had been afraid to take a chance?

I recently encountered someone who said they couldn’t trust, because they had been burned by others too much. This person is one of the most successful people I know. Amazingly we beat ourselves up for making mistakes, when it is those very mistakes that help us learn. The scientific method is all about TRIAL AND ERROR. If we approach life as an experiment and not a recipe.... we just might take a bite out of something delicious. New ideas and experimentations prevent the doom of mediocrity.

NOW go forth and SCREW THINGS UP!!!


If you don't believe me listen to the guys in these videos. One is writer and the other a professor. They are Experts!




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Trust Your Self


Trust is like a triple scope ice cream cone on hot summer day. If you don’t enjoy it right now it melts away. In fact the only why to keep it from going to waste, is share it before it’s gone.

Too many times we trust others and get burned. That is the nature of trust. Trust is an exercise in vulnerability. When we trust we open ourselves to potential pain. If I trust you and you violate that trust: who is to blame? …Me, for trusting you? …Or You for beaching my trust?

But even if you gave no warning…
Even if I was totally caught unawares…
Even if you are completely to blame…

It still hurts like HELL!


Then is it wrong to trust?

Life is trial and error. The errors are a key ingredient to the recipe. If we don't fail, we don't learn. Trusting the "wrong" people shapes who we are as much as trusting the "right" people. Once again to reiterate the lessons from Kindergarten, "Its okay to make mistakes." 

Trust yourself to learn. 

Here you might expect an instruction to "learn from those mistakes" and not trust the "wrong" people again. That instruction is avoided because its next to impossible. This is not a suggestion to continue trusting someone who had already betrayed you. You can learn from them and move on, but you can't assume that learning from their betrayal will prevent you from being betrayed by someone else.

For the most part there are not wrong people, only immature people. We wrongly believe people because they wrongly believe themselves. Its easy to believe people have the best of intentions, because they do. They are trying to believe in themselves and convince themselves that they are trustworthy. Its a lot easier to sell a lie when you believe that lie. People lie to themselves as much than they lie to us. People rationalize and justify all sorts of behavior; we just get caught in their wake.

Trust is also an exercise in faith. When we trust we open ourselves to potential reward. Like so many things in life the painful moments eclipse the joyous times. We forget all those times, and all those people who thrive with our trust.

The people who are there when you need them…
The people who you can call all hours of the night…
The people who make you smile on a bad day…
The people who make you laugh…
The people who make you dinner…
The people who buy you a drink…
The people who take road trips with you…
The people that give you gifts...
The people who push you to be stronger…

There are more of those than we realize.

And they wouldn't be there if we had not trusted them. Trust is a gift given. There is nothing wrong with giving that gift. The trust we give is not just in the object trusted, but its also about our strength of self. 

Trust Your Self to Trust. 
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Balance



Everything you need to know about life you and can learn from yoga.

Take it one position at a time.
Don’t attempt too much.
But push your self to do better than last time.
Some positions are easier than others.
Some positions come more naturally for you than others.
Some positions are more difficult for you than others.
The pain means you are stretching yourself.
And Don’t forget to breath.

There is one central lesson that make both life and yoga easier…

“Balance doesn't come from trying to avoid falling. Balance comes from reaching outward.” Balancing is like a suspension bridge. Balance is about the tension that is created by the reaching. You see the key to maintaining a difficult balance posture (like the one seen above) is not driving your foot firmly into the ground. The key is to reach outward (with the arm) and upward (with the other leg.)

When you first start Yoga you learn to strengthen your core muscles.

Then you learn basic balance poses to form a foundation. These help you stay grounded.


Then you learn the more you reach outward the less you have to worry about being grounded.

Even something as difficult as a headstand is possible when your focus is on the strength of your core and the upward reach of your legs.

So let us apply these steps to life:

1)     strengthen your core

2)     form a foundation to stay grounded

3)     reach outward and upward

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(parts 5-8) WHAT IF IT IS ALL…

You might want to read Parts 1-4 first.



PSYCHOLOGY/COMMUNICATION THEORY:

At the foundation of Psychology rest “5 Enduring” issues that override schools of psychology and that cut to the core of what it means to be human:
Person-Situation To what extent is behavior caused by processes that occur inside the person (such as thoughts, emotions, motives, attitudes, values, personality, and genes)? In contrast, to what extent is behavior caused or triggered by factors outside the person (such as incentives, cues in the environment, and the presence of other people)?
Nature-Nurture Is the person we become a product of innate, inborn tendencies, or a reflection of experiences and upbringing? This is the famous “nature versus nurture” debate. For decades, psychologists argued about the degree of influence that heredity or genes versus environment or experience have on thought and behavior.
Stability-Change Are the characteristics we develop in childhood more or less permanent and fixed, or do we change in predictable (and unpredictable) ways over the course of our lives?
Diversity-Universality To what extent is every person in certain respects (a) like all other people, (b) like some other people, or (c) like no other person? Human diversity is a central concern for psychologists. 
Body-Mind finally, how are mind and body connected? Many psychologists are fascinated by the relationship between what our biological processes are (such as activity in the nervous system) and what we experience (such as thoughts and feelings.)

Research supports the idea that all and each of these 5 enduring issues are in a balance; much like SPACE-TIME and MASS-ENERGY. These 5 enduring issues are not either/or questions, but are a balance of both/and. It is likely that each (and all) of the 5 enduring issues are engaged in both recursive process and homeostasis.  

5) What if the “supernatural” is not magical or spiritual transcendence; but instead the understanding of recursive and homeostatic nature of human existence; combined with the understanding of Space-Time and Mass-Energy?

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6) What if mankind will never exceed the “Universal Speed Limit” until he understands the relationship of Space-Time, Mass-Energy… Body-Mind and so on…?

7) What if the only way to travel the universe and unlock the power of astronomical phenomena  is knowing how to do so without disrupting the homeostatic balance of the universe? What if maturing as a species is just as important as figuring out the science of it all?

8) What is understanding who we are is the key to understanding what we are? What if it IS all connected?

See Figure 2

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PHILOSOPHY/THEOLOGY

Theology is pervaded by morality. Even Postmodern interpretations of religion acknowledge and value a multiplicity of diverse interpretations of truth, being and ways of seeing. There is a rejection of sharp distinctions and global or dominant metanarratives in postmodern religion and this reflects one of the core principles of postmodern philosophy. A postmodern interpretation of religion emphasizes the key point that religious truth is highly individualistic, subjective and resides within the individual. However, Postmodern Religion still relies on a fundamental sense of tolerance and understanding. In order for truth to be relative it must tolerate and understand its neighbor’s truth. For example: Adolf Hitler had his own version of truth (for the sake of brevity) called “Aryanism”. However, Aryanism would not tolerate other ideologies. Therefore, Hitler and the Nazis attempted to destroy other races and nations. In turn other nations destroyed the Nazis. It could be argued that the destruction of the Nazi Party and the defeat of Germany during WWII is an example of “MORAL HOMEOSTASIS”. In order for morality to exist it must tolerate its neighbor’s morality. In order to tolerate one’s neighbor there must be understanding. Otherwise religions and ideologies will continue to wage war.

4) It is possible that Morality plays a homeostatic role in the survival of humankind? What if Morality-Understanding are relative in much the same way SPACE-TIME and MASS-ENERGY are relative.

All religions suggest that mankind needs a greater understanding of himself in order to better exist with the world around him or to transcend the world he knows. Most all religions postulate the idea of a supernatural existence and man's soul, his connection to that existence. Which leads to...

           

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BIOLOGY/ECOLOGY/SOCIOLOGY 

Homeostasis:

A. the tendency of a system, especially the physiological system of higher animals, to maintain internal stability, owing to the coordinated response of its parts to any situation or stimulus that would tend to disturb its normal condition or function.

B. a state of social equilibrium obtained when tension or a change has been reduced or eliminated in order to maintain the condition or function of a system.



Any intelligent life in the universe would most likely be at the top of its ecological food chain and conceivably have the ability to kill and destroy much same as humankind. Therefore it is far more likely that any “Alien Contact” would result in violence and destruction. The “UNIVERSAL SPEED LIMIT” that prevents mankind from traveling outside of his solar system could also prevent intelligent life on other planets from exiting their solar system. Thereby theoretically containing all intelligent life to the solar system where they originate.

3) Is it possible that the “UNIVERSAL SPEED LIMIT” maintains homeostasis? What if it prevents intelligent life from finding each other in order to prevent intelligent life from destroying each other?

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MATHMATICS/COMPUTER SCIENCE

Recursion: the process of repeating items in a self-similar way.

For instance, when the surfaces of two mirrors are exactly parallel with each other the nested images that occur are a form of infinite recursion. The term has a variety of meanings specific to a variety of disciplines ranging from linguistics to logic. The most common application of recursion is in mathematics and computer science, in which it refers to a method of defining functions in which the function being defined is applied within its own definition. Specifically this defines an infinite number of instances (function values), using a finite expression that for some instances may refer to other instances, but in such a way that no loop or infinite chain of references can occur. The term is also used more generally to describe a process of repeating objects in a self-similar way.

2) What if the very mathematical likelihood that allows mankind to conceive of “Alien Life”, also allows “Alien Life” to be limited in the same way mankind is limited. Is it possible that recursion allows for intelligent life to exist all over the universe in a similar way, but it also prevents intelligent life from contacting the other intelligent life in the universe? Could “Alien Life” be as limited as mankind?